no matter how excited you are about your pregnancy, it’s a v stressful time in your life.
you know what the most annoying thing about pregnancy is?? a lot of assholes around you will be calling you fat and saying shit like that even if someone like me has lost weight in say my ass/upper thighs and gained all of the weight in the belly/uterus area.
it’s like, ok i agree, i’m carrying a fucking watermelon but what about you? you carrying a fucking keg, asshole?
lol, ilu. it’s just so annoying though?? i hear people referring to aman and i as being pregnant or like ppl talking to him being like “you’re pregnant?!?” and it’s like NAH I AM, HE ISN’T. but idk society as a whole refuses to acknowledge that usually only one partner in the relationship is pregnant (yo but can you imagine a polyamorous relationship that had multiple pregnant partners it’d be like a pregnancy pact omg, kinda cool??).
that the pregnant partner in that relationship undergoes not only physical changes but a lot of emotional and mental changes as well. that despite the other non-pregnant partner taking credit of something they have just half the conception of, they should remain strictly as pillars of support. that any fluctuations in the moods of people around them can and will seriously affect the emotions of the pregnant person and it’s downright aggravating when other people downplay the turmoil one goes through when being pregnant.
it’s just so nerve wrecking. there’s so much that goes on in a pregnancy and people still expect you to do this and this no matter how stressful because they think it’s “teamwork” when no it isn’t. this kid is gonna come out of my body, not aman’s. it’s not like i’m carrying them for the first 50 yards and he does it for the rest. nor is it like he’ll be the one with the chance of having postpartum depression. or worry that his breast milk won’t contain the proper nutrients the baby will need. that’s all on me. pregnancy is 100% on the pregnant person and other people are along for the ride (or not, like absent fathers, whatever) and can help with support and ease some of the pressures but there’s honestly too much for someone to just ease any of the risks or worries completely. but it is nice to have someone there with you to help ease them.
and i guess other than the one time aman used “we are pregnant”, i’m thankful he’s never said it again. because he’s not pregnant, we are expecting but he’s not pregnant and it’s fucked up to claim he is when i’m the only one undergoing a lot of body changes, and carrying a life form and must be extra careful with whatever i intake, from medicine to food because this can drastically affect the child.
but at the same time, it pisses me off because he goes around smoking and tries to smoke in the car when ‘m in there despite knowing i still have allergies with it and it’s not good for the kid. and it also pisses me off that he drinks and tries to kiss me. no get your gross alcoholic lips away from me. i get it, you’re not pregnant but i am so kindly fuck off.
but the nerve of some assholes to shit on a pregnant woman who is simply stating that your cis male ass fucking ain’t pregnant so stop using that damn group term when you’re only involved in conception. that’s it. even if you wait hand and foot on your wife/gf/husband/bf/pregnant person you’re still not pregnant.
Ya know something interesting about the Marvel/DC ‘rivalry’ on tumblr?
Everyone acts like DC is this super regressive company compared to Marvel when DC really did more progressive stuff first and is still doing so.
Women as heroes?
DC’s had Wonder Woman as one of their three major heroes forever, but everyone ignores that because “But she doesn’t have a movie yet” (more on that later)
While Marvel can claim the first black hero in comics with Black Panther, DC actually had heroes talking explicitly about race with John Stewart and Hal Jordan, and did a lot of issues with progressiveism and liberalism vs convsativism in the Green Arrow/Green Lantern series (including a black person calling out Hal on how little he did to fight oppression on earth as he did the rest of the universe), and Green Arrow and Hawkeye arguing politics was a common thread of their time on the JLA together.
Black Lightning was the first African-American superhero with no criminal record (Luke Cage did get his powers in prison, it’s kinda stereotypical)
DC itself actually funded and published Milestone comics, a comics company entirely devoted to more diverse comics. If you’ve ever heard of Static you owe DC comics.
Marvel has never had anything even remotely equivalent.
When it comes to LGBT stuff, DC comics had a lesbian Batwoman and a lesbian woman taking over from a male hero in The Question.
While not a hero explicitly DC has a transwoman supporting character in Batgirl. (And I’m not even counting the trans characters in Vertigo books.)
It has Alan Scott being gay inthe Nu52 continuity,
I know Grace Choi was bisexual pre-reboot (I don’t know the current status)
Had a gay black teen hero in the Superboy & the Ravers comic in the 90s, as well as the character of Obsidian who was a major supporting character in the JSA.
The idea of characters of color or a different gender taking the place of legacy characters is nothing new for DC.
Like I mentioned, a lesbian Latin@ became the Question, there was an asian woman hero Doctor Light, a black woman Doctor Midnight, a Latina became the new Wildcat.
Now I mentioned I’d get back to movies later on and, let’s look at DC & Marvels movies in terms of ethnicity here, most notably the recent casting rumors.
Dwayne “The Rock” Johnson basically said he’d be playing Shazam.
Shazam, a previously white hero, played by a Black & Samoan man.
Aquaman, if rumors are to be believed, will be played by Jason Momoa.
Aquaman, a white blonde haired, blue eyed hero, played by a Samoan man.
Meanwhile over at Marvel….Well Falcon and Rhodey get to exist, but they’re up to this point still just little more than sidekicks to the white heroes in the movies.
Marvel makes a movie about a superhero team and goes “Yeah, everyone is still white as they were in the 1960s.”
DC looks at their superhero team and says “We need to make the team more diverse, even if it means changing the race of the heroes” and people act like they’re some super regressive company.
I’m fine with folks preferring one company over the other.
I’m fine with folks being excited Marvel is having legacy characters change race and/or gender with who gets to pick up the legacy.
But as a lifelong comic fan it’s kinda annoying to see people praising Marvel as super progressive for doing shit DC did in the 80s and still does to this day.
Especially when with Marvel it’s coming across far more as a blatant publicity grabs.
hollywood sure has an easy time finding brown and black people to play terrorists, thugs, drug dealers, gangsters, servants, “barbarians”, hypersexualized or desexualized caricatures but all of a sudden you need a lead role and
gosh where did they go i swear we put them here right after zero dark thirty??
Can’t even find them to play black and brown people in movies ABOUT black and brown people.
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